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Getting Through The Holidays While Coping With Grief

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Holiday season is traditionally a happy time of year. We gather with family and friends and enjoy fun and fellowship. But for those who have suffered the death of a loved one, the holidays can be difficult.

What can a person who is grieving a loss do to make it through the holidays?

Dr. Alan Wolfelt has several suggestions to help you cope with feelings of sadness during what is generally a festive time of year. Dr. Wolfelt is a grief specialist.

  • Talk about your grief. Seek the company of a friend or relative who will listen and allow you to share your feelings.
  • Do what is right for you. If family or friends have made special plans for you, but you don’t feel comfortable with those plans, speak up. Let them know your wishes about what you would like to do.
  • Talk about the person who has died. Mention him or her by name. Talking about the loved one you have lost and sharing memories—both good and bad—can lead to laughter or tears. Remember that it is okay to laugh. And okay to cry.
  • Don’t do too much. Grief and sadness can affect your energy levels. If your body is telling you to slow down, listen.
  • If certain family holiday traditions are likely to make you uncomfortable, it is your choice whether or not to participate. Similarly, if you wish to begin a new family tradition, let your feelings be known. Anticipate what might happen at family gatherings rather than being caught off guard.

This quote from Dr. Wolfelt gets to the heart of the matter. “As you approach the holidays, remember: grief is both a necessity and a privilege. It comes as a result of giving and receiving love. Don’t let anyone take your grief away. Love yourself. Be patient with yourself. And allow yourself to be surrounded by loving, caring people.”

For questions about grief counseling or any other aspects of hospice care, please call Hope Hospice at 314-984-9800. Hope Hospice serves patients and families in metro St. Louis, Missouri.

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Hospice Facts and Figures

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The latest report from the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHPNO) offers important and meaningful statistics regarding hospice care in the United States. The most recent year for which full stats were available is 2013.

The average time that a patient was on hospice in 2013 is 72.6 days.

Among hospice patients in 2013, 34.5% were on hospice 7 days or less before death occurred. 14.3% were on hospice for 8-14 days. Another 12.7% were on hospice for 15-29 days. This means 61.5% received care for less than a month. (We presume that many of that 61.5% might have qualified for hospice sooner and received a more complete assortment of hospice services.)

66.6% of hospice patients were at home in 2013 when they passed away. That number is composed of 41.7% who were in private residences. 24.9% were in nursing homes or other residential facilities.

Approximately 84% of hospice patients in 2013 were age 65 or older. 41.2% were 85 or older.

Of those admitted to hospice in 2013, 36.5% had a cancer diagnosis. The majority, 63.5%, had non-cancer diagnoses. Those included dementia (15.2%), heart disease (13.4) and lung disease (9.9%).

Family evaluations of hospice care after their family member’s death included this positive result: 73.5% of those surveyed rated their family member’s care “excellent.”

According to NHCPO estimates, the number of hospice volunteers serving patients topped 355,000 during 2013. They provided approximately 16 million hours of volunteer service.

The Medicare hospice benefit covered 87.7% of hospice patients in the U.S. during 2013. Medicaid, managed care and private insurance covered 10.0%.

These cold, hard stats are useful but they cannot describe the warmth and compassion that most hospice employees and volunteers have for their patients and families. The numbers are impressive, but it is important to remember that, ultimately, hospice care is about quality rather than quantity.

For information about hospice care in metro St. Louis, please call Hope Hospice at 314-984-9800.

Hospice? Upbeat?

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Is it possible that hospice care can be administered with an upbeat attitude? With smiles and laughter? Can the period when a patient is on hospice anticipating end-of-life be a time that also has positive experiences? At Hope Hospice, we believe the answers to these questions are, generally speaking, yes.

Certainly we take our work seriously. We know that an approaching passing can engender great stress for patients and families. We respect the fact that intense feelings of sadness have occurred and will continue to occur.

Of course, circumstances vary from patient to patient and family to family, but we work to balance those unhappy moods with warm, pleasant greetings and visits that, while acknowledging the reality of the situation, bring comfort to our patients.

We know that each day is a new experience for all of us. Life’s small pleasures are to be savored: a song, a story, a joke or just a chat about the simplest of things. If the opportunity exists to brighten a patient’s day, even just a little bit, we do what we can. If we can make a patient smile, that’s a positive experience for all concerned.

For a hospice patient, often one particular day may be better than others. Taking advantage of those good days and enjoying small pleasures is something we encourage. Knowing what lies ahead should not prevent patients and caregivers from sharing those brighter moments as they occur.

For information about hospice care in metro St. Louis, call us at Hope Hospice at 314-984-9800. We are happy to answer any questions you may have about hospice.

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Why Hospice?

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  1. Because your loved one, even if he or she is bedridden, would prefer to be at home instead of in a hospital.
  2. Because the top priority of hospice care is patient comfort including relief from pain.
  3. Because going on hospice does not mean giving up.
  4. Because hospice focuses on the quality of a patient’s remaining time, instead of continuing treatments to prolong life.
  5. Because hospice team members guide family members and/or private care personnel on proper caregiving for each individual patient.
  6. Because hospice patients, on average, live longer than those who are not on hospice. This result has been repeated by numerous studies.
  7. Because hospice care includes necessary medical equipment such as oxygen, hospital beds, wheelchairs, etc.
  8. Because spiritual and emotion support is available to the patient and family members.
  9. Because hospice is fully covered by Medicare, Medicaid and most insurance plans.
  10. Because hospice is not just for the last few days of a person’s life.
  11. Because hospice is not just for cancer patients. While hospice provides care for many cancer patients, people with other life-limiting conditions such as Alzheimer’s, renal failure, congestive heart failure may also be eligible for hospice.
  12. Because hospice care is delivered with compassion.

For information about hospice care in metro St. Louis, please call Hope Hospice at 314-984-9800.

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Hope Hospice Angels? Not Exactly, But…

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Hospice personnel have frequently been referred to as “angels.”

By certain definitions, that’s an accurate term. “A person having qualities generally attributed to an angel, (such) as… kindliness.” “A person who…acts as if sent by God.” “Someone who is very good or kind.” “A person of exemplary conduct or virtue.”

Numerous survivors of hospice patients have written letters to us at Hope Hospice describing our staff members as angels. We are not the only hospice to receive such high praise. Some hospices around the U.S. and the world have even gone so far as to include the word “angel” in their hospice name.

While angels depicted on TV and in movies (such as Clarence in It’s A Wonderful Life and Jonathan Smith on Highway To Heaven) have a direct line to heaven and God, our team members cannot make that claim. But our employees and volunteers have served patients and family members with similar dedication and determination to do things the right way. When circumstances dictate a need, our team members go above and beyond to make sure things are taken care of, in the patient’s best interests.

The country music group Alabama sang a song called Angels Among Us, describing angel-like behavior by fellow humans along the path of life. But the chorus speaks of angels sent from “somewhere up above.” About those angels, they sing: “They come to you and me, in our darkest hours… To show us how to live, to teach us how to give, to guide us with the light of love.”

Our Hope Hospice “angels” are not from somewhere up above. They are all mortal, from here on earth. But the level of compassion and care that’s delivered daily to our patients and their family members is exceptional. And for that we are proud.

For information about hospice care in metro St. Louis, please call us at Hope Hospice at any time at 314-984-9800

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When The Family Has Disagreements About Hospice

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When a doctor tells a family member that an illness is terminal, there may be disagreement among other family members about the next steps to take.

When dad has been told that death is just a few months away, sons and daughters may want dad to go on hospice while mom may want to continue aggressive treatment. (Or those sides of the argument may be reversed.)

Frequently, these disagreements occur because of a lack of familiarity with hospice. The concept is still relatively new, just a few decades old in the U.S. Even those in their 70s and 80s who’ve had friends on hospice may not know the full scope of hospice care and may have fallen prey to hospice misconceptions.

The most important things to know are: Hospice care does not speed up the dying process. Hospice is focused on patient comfort and pain relief. If a patient and/or caregivers want to rescind the decision to accept hospice care, it can be easily done.

It can be hard for any family member to face up to the reality that mom, dad, husband, wife or other family member will soon be gone. When a patient signs on for hospice care, there is an implied acknowledgement that life’s finish line is within view.

Convincing others who are providing input into the decision that your position (either for or against hospice care) is the correct choice can be difficult. A visit with a hospice representative can address most of your concerns and may reveal to all concerned that hospice is the proper choice. Or maybe not, for now.

We at Hope Hospice welcome the opportunity to share our story with all who will listen. If you have any questions about hospice care in St. Louis, call Hope Hospice at 314-984-9800.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hospice > Assisted Suicide

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In late 2014, Brittany Maynard, attracted a large amount of sympathy and generated much discussion of assisted suicide. The 29-year-old woman with brain cancer chose to end her life in Oregon where assisted suicide is legal. She was a beautiful, vivacious young woman whose first-person writings stated her desire to spare her family the tragedy of watching her condition deteriorate as she progressed toward death.

The issue of assisted suicide (often referred to as “death with dignity”) is a polarizing topic with respected individuals and organizations taking stands on both sides of the argument.

In states where assisted suicide is legal, hospice organizations must make decisions as to whether to allow their staff members to participate in these procedures. Many individuals who choose assisted suicide in these states are hospice patients. Most hospices do not allow their staff members to be present when the procedure occurs.

We agree with Dr. Sandeep Jauhar who writes on CNN.com: I still believe that for most terminally ill patients, hospice care is a better option than assisted suicide. Hospice offers team-based care with family involvement, often in a patient’s home, that focuses on pain management and dying with some comfort and dignity.

Wesley Smith, writing last month on FirstThings.com, shared these thoughts: Hospice is about living, not dying. More precisely, hospice supports life with dignity for its patients and offers invaluable social and emotional support for patients’ families.

Noted hospice advocate Dr. Ira Byock, writing in January in the Los Angeles Times, says: I aid people in dying by treating their symptoms and supporting them through the difficult practical and emotional tasks of completing their lives. In more than 35 years of practice I have never once had to kill a patient to alleviate the person’s suffering.

He continues: I believe that deliberately ending the lives of ill people represents a socially erosive response to basic human needs. If we can stay civil and (even relatively) calm, we can debate physician-assisted suicide while also substantially improving end-of-life care.

As with most such controversial topics, much discussion lies ahead. At Hope Hospice, we encourage you to learn about all the ways hospice care can enhance the end of life process and provide comfort and support to patients. If you have questions about hospice care in metro St. Louis, please call us at 314-984-9800.

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